Okay to have difficult feelings.

Today during my professional baking class a fellow student looked at me and said she was not sure about the "whole baby thing". I had just finished telling her that I had spent the last three nights staying up with my four-year-old who had a high fever. I looked at her and said "it's a commitment alright." I also told I had not regretted a thing. We continued our conversation about children etc. and it got me thinking more about the whole "empowerment" concept of PAM. A girlfriend who recently gave birth to her second child said she was afraid to have this second one as she was not sure how it would change her relationship with her three-year-old son. I told her it was okay to be afraid. Okay to acknowledge those feelings. We can be happy about having children but also acknowledge the difficult feelings and accepting them. The acknowledgment and the acceptance is empowering too. Nothing is black and white about the whole baby thing.

2 comments (Add your own)

1. Suki wrote:
i gotta admit pregnancy was very very hard on me i had problems with my back migraines very tired all the time and i can tell you now i didn't feel likw i was glowing at all i felt like a beached whale.
i had an amzing event free home birth in water with my private midwife and i would highly recomend doing your research and finding out wht is available to you as women are very uneducated by the GP. If you are interested in the idea of homebirthing find out about it , its great!

i absolutley love being a mum to my darling 2 month old son its challenging of course but worth it i just can't to see the aazing person he will become. and yes i am fearful of what it will be like when number 2 comes along. suki

April 22, 2009 @ 2:35 AM

2. Anna Getty wrote:
Suki, thank you for sharing your experience. It is very helpful for women to know that we are not alone in our feelings.

I too had a wonderful home birth and am planning another one in July with my son. As PAM grows we will be sharing more info about home birth, hospital and birth center options. We do have a few links regarding home birth in our links section we encourage moms to explore, if they are interested.
Anna

May 10, 2009 @ 5:21 PM

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